Lessons from Marriages of Women Wesleyan Leaders

 

Odilon Massolar Chaves

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Odilon Massolar Chaves is a retired Methodist pastor, with a doctorate in Theology and History from the Methodist University of São Paulo.

Son of Rev. Adherico Ribeiro Chaves and Roza Massolar Chaves.

He is married to RoseMary.

He has two daughters: Liliana and Luciana.

His thesis dealt with the Methodist revival in England in the eighteenth century and its contribution as a paradigm for our days.

 

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Table of Contents

 

·       Introduction

·       Mary Bosanquet's Ministry and Happy Marriage

·       Mary Bishop, educator, marriage and abandonment of Methodism

·       Peggy Dale's Weddings and Ministry

·       Jane Hilton's marriage integrated her husband into the Methodist circle

·       Abandonment in marriage and blessed ministry of Sarah Crosby

·       Happy Marriages of Sisters Philly and Betsy Briggs

·       Ann Bolton, a standard of true femininity and her late marriage

·       Wesley's mentorship, Rebecca Yeoman's marriage and its instability

·       Lady Darcy Maxwell, very early widowhood and discipleship of Wesley

 

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Introduction

 

"Lessons from Marriages of Women Leaders of the Wesleyan Movement" is a 32-page book about the ministry and marriages of Methodist leaders.

Wesley performed discipleship with all of them, but not all of them were happy in their marriages.

It is true that two had problems in their marriage and separated before becoming associated with Methodism. Wesley had no prejudice and they became leaders. One of them became the first female preacher in Methodism.

Three of these women approached here were widowed. One of them became a widow very early, at the age of 19.

Another married very late and was married only 4 years, but "even after being widowed in 1785, she continued to lead the Methodist society and preach regularly for more than thirty years."[1]

Another leader also married very late, after Wesley's death. Years before her final marriage, she intended to marry another suitor, but was dissuaded by Wesley who feared that the marriage would hinder her total devotion to faith and religious leadership. She married at the age of 49 to a merchant.

Another leader married a widower with the encouragement of Wesley himself. Together, the couple traveled to evangelize in Ireland where her work as a spiritual leader helped bring thousands of converts to Methodism.

And an educator Wesley admired married a Quaker, left Methodism, and became a leader with her husband.

Wesley confessed his initial concern upon learning that she had married, as he feared that her usefulness as an unmarried woman would be compromised.[2]But Wesley did not blame her, on the contrary, he encouraged her to be happy in her marriage.

Another Methodist who had emotional and spiritual instability continued to do so after her marriage. After the wedding, Wesley advised her to return to God's ways.

Two sisters who were discipled by Wesley were very happily married. They married very well and remained steadfast. One of the husbands became a prosperous banker, a member of the British Parliament, and one of the leading laymen and financiers of Methodism in his region. He also actively worked alongside William Wilberforce in the campaign for the abolition of slavery."[3]

Another leader integrated her husband into Methodism. Wesley always called her husband "brother." But when she got married, Wesley amicably warned her that love for her husband would not cause her to forget God or slow down her spiritual pace.

None of these marriages were officiated by Wesley, as they were held in the Anglican Church, as determined by law.

Wesley's famous guidance not to seek happiness in marriage is here seen very clearly.

Stories published here that serve as a reflection for pastors and pastors today.

 

The Author

 

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Mary Bosanquet's Ministry and Happy Marriage

 

"Mary Bosanquet Fletcher(1739-1815) was one of the most important pioneers of the Methodist movement in the eighteenth century.John Wesley—the leader and founder of Methodism—to recognize and support theministry and the preaching of women".[4]

She was one of the first preachers. John Wesley said that her preaching was "light and fire."[5]

Born into a wealthy family in England, she converted to Methodism, abandoned comfort, opened an orphanage and a school[6]for underprivileged children in Yorkshire.

Bosanquet married the Anglican clergyman John Fletcher, who was a friend of Wesley's.

"Even after she was widowed in 1785, she continued to lead the Methodist society and preach regularly for more than thirty years."[7]

Wesley had a high opinion of Mary Bosanquet. On March 23, 1775, he wrote to Betsy and said, "MY DEAR BETSY,-- I am glad you had the opportunity to spend time in Leeds and with Miss Betsy. Bosanquet. This, I have no doubt, has been a blessed means of increasing his spiritual strength."[8]

On February 11, 1775, Wesley wrote to Mary Bishop and said, "There is much good in Miss Bosanquet; and you can do her good, for she loves and will bear to be honest."[9]

In 1781, Wesley shows that he considered Bosanquet's school to be of excellence. He said: "I saw another Christian school at Leytonstone, under the care of Miss Leytonstone. Bosanquet. I do not remember having discovered any defect in either the first or the second.[10]

Wesley considered the students of the school as children. Revealing the excellence of Bosanquet's teaching, Wesley said, "I want your children (Students) be educated just like those of Miss Helena. Bosanquet".[11]

Bosanquet had a high opinion of her husband. In 1774, Wesley wrote: "When John Fletcher urged Mary Bosanquet [They married in 1781], she said (asking my advice on this): 'If I change my situation, it must be with one who can not only love, but also deep reverence and esteem: one who is qualified to be my guide; one who is eminent not only in grace, but also in understanding."[12]

Who was John Fletcher

John Fletcher was rector of Madeley in Shropshire. He became vicar in 1760.

Fletcher was known in Britain for his piety and generosity. When asked if he had any needs, he replied, "... I want nothing but more grace."[13]

In 1751, Fletcher became acquainted with Wesley, Methodism, and "began to work withJohn Wesley, becoming a key interpreter of theTheologyWesleyan in the eighteenth century and one of the first great theologians of Methodism".[14]

John Fletcher was very useful to Wesley and to Methodism.  He was "very useful in the struggle he had to sustain to defend the Arminian point of view before his Calvinist opponents. In this way, Methodism produced a great theologian without him actually writing a treatise on theology."[15]

Wesley saw in Fletcher the person capable of replacing him. In a letter to John Fletcher in January 1773, Wesley quoted what someone had said and said: 'When Mr. Wesley falls, it will all end!' And so it will certainly be, unless, before God calls him here, someone is found to stand in his place."[16] 

Fletcher married Methodist leader Mary Bosanquet.

After Fletcher's death, Maria continued her husband's work in the parish. This she did for the next thirty years. She died in the parish and was buried in the same grave as her husband in December 1815.[17]

Maria Bosanquet was known as "Mother in Israel," a Methodist term of honor, for her work in spreading the religion throughout England.[18] 

Fletcher fell ill. "By the end of 1785, Fletcher's health had deteriorated. He caught a cold and was very weak. He had a very high fever and very little energy. His voice grew weaker and weaker. His body was covered with stains. And then, during the night of Sunday, August 14, 1785, John William Fletcher died at the age of fifty-six. The funeral took place three days later and was conducted by an old friend, the Reverend Hatton."[19]

On August 14, 1815, she wrote: "Thirty years on this day I drank the bitter cup and closed the eyes of my beloved husband, and now I myself am dying, Lord, prepare me, I feel death very near. I wait, and I desire to fly to the bosom of my God!".[20]

 

Mary Bishop, educator, marriage and abandonment of Methodism

 

Mary Bishop (1741–1819) was an important educator, leader, and Methodist, and was considered by Wesley to be a true reference in education.

Mary was born in Bath, Somerset (England) and was baptized as a child "on February 20, 1741, the daughter of John and Martha Bishop. Around 1760, she established and ran a boarding school in the Vineyards neighborhood of Bath.[21] 

Mary Bishop was initially associated with Calvinist Countess Lady Huntingdon, but Mary went to the Methodist movement after disagreements with the Countess.[22]

She joined the Methodist society in Avon Street in late 1769, and soon assumed leadership of the group.[23]

Mary Bishop ran a prestigious school in Bath, England, and ran the place under the principles of "early Christian simplicity".

The school became "a model that Wesley used to evaluate other Methodist schools, having been declared by him to be a school 'after my own heart'. They kept a constant correspondence where he guided her and praised her work in the formation of the children."[24] 

"After a serious illness in 1777 which led her to close her school and move temporarily to Frome, she moved to Keynsham in 1781 and founded a boarding school, further integrating herself into Methodist evangelical circles near Bristol."[25] 

Mary Bishop and Wesley maintained frequent correspondence from 1769 to 1784.

"In August 1789, Mary Bishop married Thomas Mills (1735–1820), a widowed Quaker bookseller in Bristol. Mary aligned herself with the Quakers and the couple were buried together at the Quaker Redcliff Pit Cemetery in Bristol".[26] 

When Mary married, Wesley did not reproach her, but sought counsel "He eased any potential guilt she felt by assuring her that it was not a sin to marry a 'child of God.' He encouraged her to pray for her husband that he would grow in faith and be perfected in love.

Wesley actively checked his local position and support system, asking specifically about his association with early Methodists such as Mr. and Mrs. Adam Clarke and Miss S. Lempriere".[27]  

Some important points of Wesley's mentoring for Mary Bishop:

"Spiritual Mentoring and "Simple Faith": Wesley often warned Mary against overthinking, overreasoning, and "useless reflections on herself." He constantly encouraged her to put aside theological anxieties and adopt a childish, uncorrupted faith. 

Philosophy and Methods of Education: As a teacher, Mary often sought Wesley's advice on how to raise and teach children. He famously advised her not to use the Church's standard Catechism for young children, calling it 'totally inappropriate for children of six or seven years old,' recommending short, simplified instructions.

Opposition to Worldly Fashions: Wesley strongly advocated 'primitive simplicity' in the classroom. He explicitly told Maria not to let her students dress or behave according to the changing fashions of the world, warning that this would erode the spiritual focus of the school. 

Grammar and Intellect: Wesley deeply respected Mary's mind. In an iconic letter from 1773, he confidently told her, "In two or three hours I could teach you so much grammar that you could follow without difficulty," emphasizing that intellectual pursuit must always be accompanied by a one-eyed devotion to God.

Anti-Calvinist polemics: Mary's location in Bath placed her right in the middle of theological debates between Wesley's Arminian Methodists and Calvinist Methodists (associated with Lady Huntingdon and Rowland Hill). Wesley used his letters to Mary to criticize Calvinism, famously noting that"You must not think that anything will convince a warm Calvinist—no, not an angel coming down from heaven."[28] 

Mary Bishop's Wedding

"In 1789, a particularly well-documented letter from Wesley to Bishop addresses her recent marriage, offering him a unique platform to advise her.

John Wesley sent his correspondence to her from Dublin on 7 April 1789. The main themes of his letter include:

Marriage Lawyer:Wesley confessed his initial concern upon learning that she had married, as he feared that her usefulness as an unmarried woman would be compromised.[29]

But Wesley did not blame her, on the contrary, he encouraged her to be happy in her marriage.

"The influential Methodist Mary Bishop (1741–1819) married the widowed Quaker bookseller Thomas Mills (1735–1820).

The wedding took place in August 1789, in the city of Bristol, England".

After the wedding...

"Mary Bishop formally aligned herself with the Quakers, moving away from the leadership and strict Methodist fellowship of which she was a part.

Impact on female leadership: Mary Bishop was known for managing a school focused on the education and spiritual formation of women in Bath and Bristol. Her marriage and subsequent religious transition marked the end of her direct role as one of the leading intellectuals in Wesley's inner circle. 

Union to the end: The couple remained together until the end of their lives. Mary died in 1819 and Thomas the following year. Both were buried together in the Quaker cemetery ofRedcliff Pit, located in Bristol".[30]

 

Peggy Dale's Weddings and Ministry

 

Her name was Margaret, called by Wesley "Peggy" Dale (1745–1777).

Peggy was born in Durham, England, and raised with her sisters by her uncles (the Lewen family) after the deaths of her father and mother.

"Peggy "Dale" and her sisters Mary and Ann "were brought up in Kibblesworth, Durham, England, by their maternal uncles,Thomas and Sarah (Lawrence) Lewen. After the death of their father (Edward Dale) in 1755 and the passing of their mother (Eleanor) a short time earlier, the Lewens took responsibility for the orphans."[31]

The Lewen family was "deeply involved and active in the Methodist movement. They helped consolidate the work of Methodism in the region and offered continued support to Wesley and his congregations."[32]

In 1773, Peggy was married on March 4 to "Edward Avison, an organist. John Wesley met her in 1765 and they maintained a lasting friendship."[33]

Edward Avison (1747–1776) "was an English organist and an active figure in the early twentieth century."Methodist Movementin Newcastle, known historically for his marriage to Margaret "Peggy" Dale.[34]

Edward was the eldest son of Charles Avison, who was one of the most famous British composers and music theorists of the seventeenth century.

Edward Avison "was a respected and deeply religious member of the Methodist community. He served as atrusteeofMethodist Orphan Housein Northumberland Street in Newcastle, which functioned as a central hub for the movement and accommodation for preachers."[35]

Of Peggy's marriage, Wesley said, "I know where Peggy Dale could have made a better choice."

"Peggy" Dale was "the niece of Miss Lewen, a benefactor of Methodism in England, and became one of the most beloved and favored correspondents of the theologian John Wesley. Wesley wrote dozens of letters to Peggy beginning in the mid-1760s, focusing on pastoral counseling, the consolidation of the Christian faith, and the pursuit of sanctification.[36]

Peggy Dale was living in Newcastle when Wesley wrote to Samuel Levick on 2 January 1768 and quoted a statement by John Fenwick, who wrote from Newcastle: 'We all believe that the debt can be paid off in one year. I'm going to give it 25. Robert Davison will give 25. John Morrison, 25 years old. Miss S. Dales, 50.' Let us do it with faith, and so it will be done!"[37]

He stated that Miss Helena Sánchez was a member of the S Dales would give 50, double and the highest amount.

Peggy Dale helped "sustain the spiritual revival led by the Wesley brothers in the north of England, Newcastle upon Tyne area. She was active in advising, encouraging other members, and discussing theology directly with the Methodist leader."[38]

His parents supported Wesley's ministry. Jane became a Methodist and joined the Methodist society in 1764.

At times when (Jane) Mrs. Barton faced crises, Wesley wrote to comfort her, reminding her that "the Lord disciplines whom he loves."

After their marriage in 1769, Wesley continued to encourage Jane to lead and visit the neighbors.

Jane was a class leader. In 1769, Wesley told him, "I understand that you ought especially to encourage believers to surrender all to God, and to look forward to the power by which they will be enabled to do so every day and every moment."[39]

Jane was dedicated. In 1770, Wesley told him, "And see that you try so hard to comfort the mental, to support the weak, to confirm the vacillations, and to recover those who are out of the way."[40]

In 1774, Wesley wrote to him and said, "It is exceedingly certain that God has given you the second blessing, appropriately named."[41]

The doctrine of the second blessing or perfection was a goal of Wesley's. Writing to Samuel Bardsley on April 3, 1772, Wesley spoke of the need to seek the second blessing: "Press all believers to follow on to perfection. Insist everywhere that the second blessing be received in an instant, and now receivable, by simple faith."[42]

That same year, writing to JaneSalkeld,Wesley said, "Urge all the little ones who believe to hurry up and not delay the moment of receiving the second blessing."[43]

 

Jane Hilton's marriage integrated her husband into the Methodist circle

 

Jane Hilton (1747–1825) was baptised as a child on 28 February 1747, at the Anglican Church in Beverley, Yorkshire. She was the daughter of Francis and Jane Hilton.

His parents supported Wesley's ministry. She became a Methodist and joined the Methodist society in 1764.

Jane lived in the Beverley area and then in Hull, England.

"She married William Barton inMarch 1769, remaining married to him throughout the period in which she corresponded with Wesley (her last known letter to her was in 1788)".[44]

Initially, Wesley called her Jane Hilton. After she married in 1769, she called him Mrs. Barton.

"TheJohn Wesley's letters to Mrs. Barton(whose maiden name wasJane Hilton) form one of the most famous and rich pastoral collections of the founder of Methodism. In all, there are32 letters preserveddirected at her. They reveal Wesley's pastoral heart and serve as a practical guide to spirituality."[45]

She was a very active Methodist who led small prayer and discipleship groups.

Your wedding

"When Jane married Mr. Barton, Wesley sent letters warning her amicably that love for her husband should not cause her to forget God or slow down her spiritual pace."[46] 

"Her marriage to William Barton integrated the family into the circle of followers of the Reverend John Wesley (founder of Methodism), who traveled around England and wrote letters to the Barton family, addressed specifically to Jane. William is often referred to in the religious and historical texts of the time as "Brother Barton".

Key aspects about the couple's life and connection include:

  • Wedding: Held in 1769, in the town of Beverley, in the Yorkshire region.
  • Religious Circle: They maintained friendship and intense correspondence with figures from the beginning of British Methodism. The famous theologian John Wesley sent several letters addressed to Jane, where he also conveyed love and blessings to Brother William Barton. 
  • Timeline:Jane Hilton was born on1747and died in1825”.[47]

 

Hester Rogers' ministry and marriage to a widower

 

Hester Rogers (1756 -1794) was a British Methodist considered by Wesley as a model of holiness.

Hester Ann Roe"She was one of the most influential women at the beginning of theMethodist Movementand one of the closest friends and correspondents of its founder, John Wesley."[48]

She was born in Macclesfield, Cheshire, England.

Ann Hester "had a strict but caring upbringing. It was confirmed in 1769 by theBishop of Chester,Edmund Keene, in the Church of England. It dated her conversion to Methodism to November 11, 1774, after hearingSamuel Bardsleypreach.  He was one of John Wesley's Methodist itinerant preachers.  She isAnn Cutlerwere among the first Methodist evangelists."[49]

Ann Hester began a lifelong correspondence with  Wesley after meeting him in 1776.

She was a Methodist class leader and one of her students was Agnes Bulmer.  

Hester "visited the sick. Five years later, he met another Methodist preacher named James Rogers and his wife Ann. His wife died in February 1784 after childbirth, and in accordance with Ann's wishes, James married Hester the following August. Both then went to evangelize in Ireland."[50]

In 1783, Wesley referred to her as "that blessed creature Hetty Roe."[51]

In 1785, Wesley wrote of his ability: "... since Hetty Rogers had great capacity to fill her place there".[52]

Hester Ann Roe wrote of Wesley, in her 1783 Journal: "Sunday, April 6. "I have received a letter from dear Mr. Wesley, who tells me that he is hurrying to Holyhead on his way to Dublin, and that he will be in Newcastle on Tuesday." She says she met him at Lane End on Tuesday and heard him preach; then took her in his carriage to Newcastle-under-Lyme, where he preached from 'One thing is necessary.' She heard it again the next morning at five."

Marriage: In 1784, with Wesley's own encouragement, she married James Rogers, a prominent Methodist itinerant preacher."[53] 

Some details about James Rogers

James met Hester in the town of Macclesfield in 1782, when he was still married to his first wife, Ann, who was a close friend of Hester's.

The Marriage: After Ann's death due to complications in childbirth in February 1784, and following a wish expressed by the deceased herself, James and Hester were married in August of the same year, with the encouragement of John Wesley himself.

Ministry Partnership: Together, the couple traveled to evangelize in Ireland (mostly in Dublin), where Hester's role as a spiritual leader helped bring thousands of converts to Methodism.

"His most famous work is the bookThe Experience of Hester Ann Rogers(The Experience of Hester Ann Rogers). The text was published by Wesley and has remained one of the most widely read and influential literary works of Methodism for more than a century.[54]

 

Death

She died young, at the age of 38, in Birmingham, in 1794.

She "died inBirminghamin 1794. After his death, a sermon was published entitled "The Character and Death of Mrs. Hester Ann Rogers", which presents the life of Hester Rogers asModelfor Methodist women. The sermon had been given by the bishopThomas CokePosted onSpitalfieldsand published with an appendix by her husband. By 1876, it had been turned into a Methodist treatise."[55]

 

Abandonment in marriage and blessed ministry of Sarah Crosby

 

Sarah Crosby (1729 – 1804) lived her childhood in Leeds, England.

Crosby became interested in religion at age 14. This became more accentuated at the age of 17 because she was afraid of dying and going to hell.

"In 1750, Crosby married. Little is known about Mr. Crosby, including his first name; similarly, Sarah Crosby's maiden name is not known – she is always referred to as 'Mrs Crosby'. The marriage did not last long; Her husband left her on February 2, 1757, after seven years of marriage.  It's unclear why the Crosbys broke up."[56]

Sarah's wedding details

· "Identity of husband hidden: The baptismal name of the spouse was never discovered. He is recorded in the biographical archives only as "Mr. Crosby". As a result, even Sarah's maiden name remains unknown. 

·  The final abandonment: In February 1757, Mr. Crosby deserted and abandoned Sarah permanently. He left her without economic resources, forcing her to seek her own support. 

·  Controversial reasons: The exact reasons for the separation are unknown. Biographers of the time speculated that her husband might be an alcoholic, unfaithful, or simply hostile to Sarah's intense religious devotion. Another strand supposes that he may have introduced John Wesley's writings to her before he left."[57]

Sarah and Methodism

Sarah was prejudiced against the Methodists, but after "reading some of Wesley's works, she became interested in the denomination.  Crosby was converted to Methodism on October 29, 1749.  Crosby joined the ranks of the members of theThe Foundery, aMethodist Society, in October 1750.  She began to lead herOwn classesMethodists in 1752. Shortly after becoming class leader, Crosby had a vision of Jesus while praying. In his vision, Jesus said: 'Feed my sheep.'  Crosby interpreted this event as God calling her to preach."[58]

In 1763, Saray began working and living with Mary Bosanquet and Sarah Ryan at their orphanage, The Cedars, in Leytonstone.

In 1771, after a request from Mary Bosanquet, Wesley authorized Crosby to preach, something new at the time.

"Sarah Crosby was one of the most important and dynamic leaders of the early Methodist movement founded by John Wesley in the eighteenth century.

Her work has shaped the female role in religious leadership through the following milestones:

The Beginning and the Unexpected Call

  • Conversion: Born in England in 1729, she converted to Methodism after hearing John Wesley preach in London in 1749.
  • Class Leadership: In 1752, he began to act as a leader of "classes" (small groups of disculation and prayer) in the famous chapel The Foundery.
  • The Turning Point (1761): Sent to lead a class meeting in Derby that used to have 30 people, she was faced with an audience of over 200 individuals. Feeling compelled by necessity, she decided to give a speech and preach to the crowd."[59] 

"On June 13, 1771, Wesley wrote to Crosby with instructions on how to conduct public meetings, since he could now preach officially.  During the 1770s, Crosby was a preacherItinerant;  She wrote that she had traveled 960 miles in the year 1777 alone.  Sometimes she traveled with Wesley. Apparently, Crosby was quite popular and often spoke to hundreds of people in his sermons.  She even addressed a crowd of 500 to 600 people in the rain, despite losing her voice and being sore from traveling."[60]

She died at the age of 75 and was buried in Leeds Parish Cemetery in a grave with her colleagues Sarah Ryan and later Ann Tripp.

 

Happy Marriages of Sisters Philly and Betsy Briggs

 

"Philothea Briggs(born 1753) was a historical figure linked to the beginning of the Methodist movement. She is widely remembered in the history of Methodism for having been the recipient of famous letters and spiritual advice written by the founder of the movement,John Wesley".[61]

Philly was from a Methodist family. His father worked with Wesley.

"Early Onset:Philothea was the daughter of William Briggs, one of Wesley's trustees of books in London. For this reason, Wesley had known her since childhood."[62]

William was an active Methodist. "There are historical records, including a famous letter from April 1750, where Briggs writes to John Wesley reporting aspects of the faith, the expansion of the movement, and the spiritual state of the Wesleyan members.[63]

When Wesley began writing to Philothea Briggs, whom he called "DEAR PHILLY," she must have been about 16 years old. Wesley also called it Philadelphia. One of the first letters was in 1769.

Happy marriages

Speaking of William, father of Philly and Betsy, Wesley said in a letter: "Briggs married his sister Elizabeth in 1749"[64](sister of Ted Perronet).

Elizabeth was the daughter of Vincent Perronet, a vicar who was a close friend and adviser of Wesley.

William's daughters, Betsy Briggs (Elizabeth) was born in 1751 and Philly was born in 1753.

Later, Betsy Briggs moved to Hoxton Square and married Peard Dickinson on April 30, 1788: Betsy "was closely acquainted with the leaders of Methodism, and even received several letters written byJohn Wesley. Later, Betsy married Rev.Peard Dickinson(an auxiliary clergyman to John Wesley), and died at Walthamstow in 1822".[65]

In 1781, Philly married "Thomas Thompson, an influential man ofHull(Yorkshire). Thomas Thompson became a prosperous banker, a member of the British Parliament, and one of the leading laymen and financiers of Methodism in his region. He also actively worked alongside William Wilberforce in the campaign for the abolition of slavery."[66]

It also reveals that Wesley's mentorship with Philly and Betsy led them to make good choices.

Among the topics covered in the letters to Philly are:

  • "Love and Charity: In a 1772 correspondence, he summed up the whole religion in humble and patient love, citing the commandment to walk in love.
  • Religious Gossip: In another letter from 1772, Wesley firmly addressed "religious gossip," describing it as a deep-seated evil that adds hypocrisy to the lack of charity. He instructed Methodist leaders to combat this practice." 
  • Practical advice: In addition to the spiritual life, he gave very specific advice to the young woman, such as instructions on posture ("learn to write inclined, without leaning over your chest") and mental health ("never read or write for too long").[67] 

Wesley also taught him about beware of "religious gossip."

They are letters that reveal a process of discipleship that helped Philly in the maturation, sanctification and healing of the soul.

That was her wish. In 1771, Wesley replied: "While you want some guidance on the improvement of your mind (...)".

Wesley knew Philothea well. In a letter from Wesley, in 1774, there are indications that she was overcoming her difficulties: "Her feelings tended to be too impetuous, and sometimes unequal too; but nature yields to healing grace."

Wesley recommended reading books: "The four volumes of Sermons, the Appeals, the Notes, and the Excerpts from the Works of Mr. Law and Dr. Young may be the best for you now."

But he places the Bible as the ultimate book: "All the knowledge you want is gathered in a single book—the Bible. When you understand that, you'll know enough."

Wesley also spoke of Philly's maturation: "Philly faced such great shocks that it could have shaken some of the most established souls we have in London."

 

Ann Bolton, a standard of true femininity and her late marriage

 

"Born in June 1743 in England, Ann converted to Methodism at the age of 19. She took an active leadership role as 'class leader' from 1777, spiritually guiding other members, and kept a detailed spiritual diary.

The Friendship with John Wesley

The relationship between Ann and John Wesley is one of the best-documented examples of eighteenth-century spiritual direction:

  • Practical Counselor: In addition to spiritual advice, Wesley, who had a keen interest in medicine, often sent her health advice and treatments for her failing health.
  • Publication: Wesley valued Ann's insights so much that he published more than 20 letters written by her in Arminian Magazine.
  • Financial Legacy:The deep trust he placed in her was evident when Wesley left her as a beneficiary in his will."[68] 

Among their correspondence, we see that Wesley saw in Ann an example. He said to Ann Bolton:

About simplicity

"It is very pleased to observe that you do not lose your simplicity. You seem not only to maintain simplicity of spirit (the big deal), but also of feeling and language."[69]

Perfect standard of true femininity

"I don't know what it is in all his spirit and behavior that has always given me an indescribable pleasure; and when I look at you (you know to whom the glory is due!), I am often ready to cry out, 'Thou, perfect standard of true womanhood!'[70]

A flame of sacred love

"I want you to be a flame of sacred love! I want you to do His will now, as angels do in heaven! to be all life, all fire, all light in the Lord!"[71]

His words (by the grace of God) will impart health to the soul

"Iron sharpens iron, and a man's countenance your friends—not only conversation, but countenance itself, such as I have often found when I have looked at you. But much more, his words (by the grace of God) will impart health to the soul."[72]

Like a watered garden

"God has been pleased to guide her on the path of suffering from her youth until now. For now, this is not joyful, but serious; however, it bore peaceful fruit. Your soul is motionless like a watered garden, like a field that the Lord has blessed. Hold fast to Him still with full purpose of heart."[73]

Your wedding

"The MethodistAnn 'Nancy' Bolton, born June 3, 1743 in Witney, England, marriedGeorge Conibeerein the year1792”.[74]

 

Wedding Details

 

·         John Wesley's intervention: Years before her final marriage, Ann Bolton intended to marry another suitor, but was dissuaded by John Wesley, the founder of Methodism, who feared that marriage would get in the way of her total devotion to faith and religious leadership.

 

·Late marriage: After Wesley's death (which occurred in 1791), she finally married George Conibeere, a merchant from Gloucester, in 1792, when she had already49 years old".[75]

 

Wesley's mentorship, Rebecca Yeoman's marriage and its instability

 

"Mentoring for Rebecca Yeoman (later Rebecca Gair) focused on spiritual stability during major life transitions, specifically marriage and forming a home.

  • The Focus: Spiritual integrity in married life and accountability.
  • The Approach: Wesley exercised a welcoming and protective spiritual fatherhood. Knowing the challenges of getting married within the Methodist movement — keeping the vows of dedication to God without neglecting the rules of the community — he asked her to "open her whole heart to him" and share in complete simplicity every trial or manifestation of grace she experienced. 
  • The Discipleship Line"Practical guidance on mutual submission, caution against spiritual discouragement after marriage, and referral of trusted local mentors (such as Wesley's itinerant preachers) to support her closely."[76] 

Your wedding

  • "The wedding of Methodist Rebecca Yeoman (who after marriage became Rebecca Gair) took place on September 20, 1772 at St. Andrew's Church  in Newcastle, England. She married Robert Gair (1739–1802).
  • The Hardwicke Act of 1753: In 18th-century England, in order for a marriage to be legally valid, the law required that it be performed in an Anglican parish church (of the Church of England), under the proclamation of banns (Banns) or license".[77]

 

Before the wedding, Wesley wrote to her on February 5, 1772, and spoke of his state of "darkness" as he went: "MY DEAR SISTER,-- From what I understand, you are now in the state of wild nature. I advise you to read this sermon in the fourth volume, and examine yourself through it. If you discover the cause of the heaviness or the darkness, you're more than halfway to healing."[78]

In 1774, Wesley tells Mrs. Gair about the possibility of her husband taking a test as a preacher: "MY DEAR SISTER,-- As for you, the great danger is that you will abandon the sacred channels of His grace. Just stay in the way. Read, meditate, pray as you can, though not as you would. Then God will return and lift up abundantly the light of His countenance upon you. With regard to Brother Gair, it is not improbable that the impression he feels really comes from God. I think he can try a test as a local preacher; and probably God would confirm the word of His messenger"—[79]

In a letter in 1779, Wesley advises her to return to the ways of God: "... if you seek it, but you will soon find it. He will return and forgive abundantly. Who knows how soon. Maybe today; And why not, at this time?"[80]

 

Lady Darcy Maxwell, very early widowhood and discipleship of Wesley

 

Lady Darcy Maxwell (1742-1810) was an eminently pious Methodist in Scotland. She belonged to the nobility of Scotland and was known for her great works of philanthropy.

"She was the youngest daughter of Thomas Brisbane, of County Ayr, and was born about the year 1742. In his own home, he received the fundamentals of an education, but later completed it in the city of Edinburgh. At the age of sixteen, she resided for a time in London with her uncle and aunt, lord and lady Lothian, to enjoy the perks of being presented at court. In 1759, shortly after his return from London, he married Sir Walter Maxwell. This union seemed to open before her a disconcerting vision of future joys and happiness; but only for two short years did she realize her bright expectations; At the end of this period, her husband and son were taken from her, and she was widowed at the age of nineteen. When the news of her little one's death, within six weeks of her husband's, was conveyed to her, without any outburst of sorrow or even murmur, she exclaimed, 'I see that God requires all my heart, and he will have it!' 'God brought me to himself through affliction,' she often said. It was while burdened by these heavy trials that she became acquainted with the Methodists."[81]

 Marriage and widow

"Born in Scotland, she married Sir Walter Maxwell. In 1762, at the age of 19, she was widowed and lost her newborn son within weeks.

"Lady Darcy Maxwell (née Darcy Brisbane) married Sir Walter Maxwell (of Barons Maxwell Macdonald) in 1760.

The marriage was short-lived, as Sir Walter died in 1762, leaving her a widow and mother at the age of 19.[82] 

Spiritual life

Conversion: She interpreted suffering as a divine call. In 1764, he met John Wesley and formally joined the Methodist society. 

Leadership and Philanthropy: She became one of the most influential women in Methodism. She has funded and run free schools for poor children in Edinburgh and Sunday schools in London."[83] 

John Wesley's Letters to Lady Maxwell

The letters sent by Wesley to her reveal a tone of deep respect, but also of direct and straightforward mentoring. Key topics covered in the correspondence include:

  • Pursuit of Christian Holiness and Perfection: Wesley often encouraged her to seek the "full assurance of the faith" and complete sanctification, helping her overcome her natural shyness to witness to her faith.
  • Practical Leadership Advice: In famous letters, such as the one dated August 8, 1788, Wesley strongly defends the itinerancy system of Methodist preachers, explaining that pastors needed to rotate between cities to keep the movement dynamic, even if the Scottish people preferred to fix a local preacher.
  • Resistance Against Temptations of Status: Because she belonged to high society, Lady Maxwell lived surrounded by nobles. Wesley constantly warned her to keep her distance from the vanities of the world. In February 1767, he wrote one of his most celebrated quotes to her:"Keep a greater distance from temptation and carefully avoid all opportunities of evil".[84] 

Lady Maxwell died on 2 July 1810.

In 1822, Rev John Lancaster published the book "Life of Darcy, Lady Maxwell", Methodist Vol 1-2".

 



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